I can very much relate to the feeling of jealousy when you talk about your husband planning a weekend away yet in your marriage you do all the planning because “he doesn’t like to plan”
My husband and I have had the same conversation. He can plan and make reservations for dinner with a date but doesn’t do that for us. I know he adores me, but we fall into these roles after being married for 14 years. I expressed that I want to be made special too.
We do fall into roles after being married for so long! I also know how much my husband adores me (and we also go on weekend away trips and regular date nights!). Still, it is sometimes easier for him to make a new date feel special, whereas making an effort for us is often routine, an obligation, and expected. I often wonder if I would accept his behavior as 'normal if we were monogamous and not question it, or if his planning a guy's trip or a trip for his sisters would stir the same jealousy as him planning for a date with another woman. And as always, knowing that I am not alone in experiencing this is a comfort!
I can very much relate to the feeling of jealousy when you talk about your husband planning a weekend away yet in your marriage you do all the planning because “he doesn’t like to plan”
My husband and I have had the same conversation. He can plan and make reservations for dinner with a date but doesn’t do that for us. I know he adores me, but we fall into these roles after being married for 14 years. I expressed that I want to be made special too.
We do fall into roles after being married for so long! I also know how much my husband adores me (and we also go on weekend away trips and regular date nights!). Still, it is sometimes easier for him to make a new date feel special, whereas making an effort for us is often routine, an obligation, and expected. I often wonder if I would accept his behavior as 'normal if we were monogamous and not question it, or if his planning a guy's trip or a trip for his sisters would stir the same jealousy as him planning for a date with another woman. And as always, knowing that I am not alone in experiencing this is a comfort!