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Wendy Thomas's avatar

Oh this resonates so much. My husband and I are in the midst of moving from the UK to Italy. Next year we'll likely have to say a permanent goodbye to our English 'heart house'. It will be so hard, even though moving to Italy has been a lifelong dream. I've already lined up a 12 mile walk to a country pub and back to say my goodbyes- that's been something I wanted to do for 20 years!

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Kimia Jalili's avatar

Thank you for sharing. I love your sentimentality. Having grown up in a military family, I have had the privilege of living in so many places but leaving a place that I called home and schools I called mine and all my friends every few years never got easy. I am so proud of you for tuning into your son's need for closure. My feelings were probably overlooked as a child and reading this brought tears to my eyes. You're awesome.

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Curt Bechler's avatar

Beautifully written. My mother would always say, "I refuse to be sad because it is over; I celebrate that it happened."

At the same time, you said it well, grieving the loss of dreams is simply not easy. Leaving behind hopes and dreams, be it in a relationship or a home, means leaving part of ourselves behind and brings out the emotions that come with what was and what might have been.

Again, thanks for sharing your story.

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